tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030865476005419730.post2447700165593507634..comments2021-04-09T10:08:16.082-04:00Comments on Jack and Erin: What (Some) Married People Need To Know About Being SingleJack and Erinhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06974723790552324438noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030865476005419730.post-33621847856438052132010-07-29T08:59:45.063-04:002010-07-29T08:59:45.063-04:00I agree with you Erin. I think its important that ...I agree with you Erin. I think its important that we understand that marriage does not complete us but Christ does. Going into marriage with the idea that we will find wholeness I think will be very disappointing. I think I have learned so much about being sold out to God as a single person and deriving joy from my relationship with him. I believe that this is the period when God refines us and makes us better people as we trust him to take care of the future. So I have decided to live life to the fullest as a single person with my eyes totally fixed on my first love (Jesus).<br />Thanks for being a blessing.Rubynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030865476005419730.post-16686293677730637662010-07-23T10:26:44.061-04:002010-07-23T10:26:44.061-04:00I was single for a long time. I lived alone for 10...I was single for a long time. I lived alone for 10 years and LOVED it! I didn't think I was made to be married because I was so happy being single. The thought of having children terrified me. I couldn't imagine I was capable of being a mother. One day,7 years ago, my future husband walked into my office. We were married a year ago. Now I'm married with TWO awesome stepsons which I find very funny since I'm from a family of all girls. I had no experience relating to boys. God had a plan for me that I never would have come up with on my own. If you would have asked me a 10 years ago if I wanted what I have now I would have said , very enthusiastically, no way! But here I am, as happy married with children as I was being single. I can't imagine my life now without my husband and kids. I'm learning to trust where God is placing me.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030865476005419730.post-54146096777757824592010-07-23T10:22:20.537-04:002010-07-23T10:22:20.537-04:00I wish they would understand that I do want to be ...I wish they would understand that I do want to be married, that I pray that God is preparing me and my mate for this, and that they don't need to keep "encouraging" me with their questions as to why I am not dating or not married. It is what I desire, and if it is what God desires, then it will come about in His time. But all their prayers are welcome.Single for nownoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030865476005419730.post-59255162572577017812010-07-22T22:55:31.164-04:002010-07-22T22:55:31.164-04:00At a singles retreat I heard "are you a Chris...At a singles retreat I heard "are you a Christian single, or a single Christian?" ...Your contentment level determines which is the adjective and which is the noun!Anna Khttp://sixstringepiamk.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030865476005419730.post-27912214119370915732010-07-22T21:43:10.850-04:002010-07-22T21:43:10.850-04:00Amen to everything...you put my thoughts into perf...Amen to everything...you put my thoughts into perfect wording....i never feel loser-ess or 'broken' until someone reminds me...bless their hearts. :-) -MaryAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030865476005419730.post-26338639799331618942010-07-22T19:20:27.496-04:002010-07-22T19:20:27.496-04:00AMEN!!!AMEN!!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030865476005419730.post-48754169615280330252010-07-22T18:29:26.379-04:002010-07-22T18:29:26.379-04:00I agree with your article! People often act as if ...I agree with your article! People often act as if there is something missing in my life because I'm not married. They act as if I am not complete or have a deficiency. I have a family member who is desperate for me to be married. I'm always telling her that the purpose of life is not to one day get married. Our purpose is to glorify God. He gets to choose how that looks. If someone thinks I "need" someone to be happy, they must not think very highly of me. Not to mention the fact that there are plenty of miserable married people. That proves that marriage isn't the answer. Finding satisfaction in Christ and finding my identity in Him is. Singleness isn't a problem. Discontentment is.Evienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030865476005419730.post-71580127957875844082010-07-22T18:25:05.993-04:002010-07-22T18:25:05.993-04:00This past weekend I gave a talk about living the s...This past weekend I gave a talk about living the single life to a group of young adults on a Christian retreat called Chrysalis. You pretty much just summed up my entire talk : ) I couldn't agree more.<br /><br />Yes I am single, but I don't want my being single to define who I am. After all, it's not about why you are single but about what you do while you are single.Lauranoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030865476005419730.post-42765369710783471222010-07-22T18:05:13.092-04:002010-07-22T18:05:13.092-04:00Unsolicited advice on appearance, etc.--what you n...Unsolicited advice on appearance, etc.--what you need to do to snag a guy--usually comes across as pretty rude. The fact that I am not married at the age of __ (fill in the blank) does NOT mean I've never been asked out, thanks. Maybe I just haven't met the one. Save the glamorizing tips (usually) for when they are requested, and spare us the assumption that you were married young because you were/ are so much more attractive.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030865476005419730.post-55502858829990815082010-07-22T17:24:20.954-04:002010-07-22T17:24:20.954-04:00Oh, I agree with the loosing a friend thing! It re...Oh, I agree with the loosing a friend thing! It really hurts, but have come to expect it. :(<br />I wish married people didn't think there was something wrong with me. I am not a looser. I do have a life, have done way more than most my age, and have great plans for the future.Rachel Daggnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030865476005419730.post-83249351358307259832010-07-22T17:00:26.982-04:002010-07-22T17:00:26.982-04:00They always try to set me up with someone they kno...They always try to set me up with someone they know...and it always ends up in a disaster because they don't know either one of us THAT well. I always tell them to stop playing God. God is my matchmaker and I know that He will bring the right one in HIS timing and HIS way.<br /><br />I wish they would not make me feel awkward with their significant other, like their life is complete and they can't make time for me anymore.Elissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04369370756421659126noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030865476005419730.post-60781069323248547252010-07-22T10:06:56.568-04:002010-07-22T10:06:56.568-04:00A-men.
Everyone has a time of single-servant hoo...A-men. <br /><br />Everyone has a time of single-servant hood *every last one of us* the question is how are we going to use that time to serve the Lord, and one another?<br /><br /> Marriage is an earthly echo of our relationship with Christ, it's all through Scripture that way, so yes it is beautiful and yes it is blessed and yes it is part of God's plan. <br /><br />For some of us. <br /><br />Marriage isn't a requirement to get into heaven, thankfully. It also isn't a requirement to be a Christian or to be loved by God. I have fantastic married friends, and in their hearts they don't want me to miss out on the joy that they have, and so they want me to wed. That, when I know they are motivated by love, that I can accept. It's when random people realize that I'm single and decide I need to be 'fixed' that my hackles come up. <br /><br />Lydia, the seller of Purple cloth wasn't married<br />Paul, the Apostle wasn't married. <br />Father Damian who ministered to the Lepers on Molokai wasn't married. <br />Saint Patrick wasn't married.<br />Mother Theresa wasn't married. <br /><br />You do not have to be married to be used by God, and you do not have to be married to be blessed, joyful, fulfilled, complete, and lost in Christ either. <br /><br />To my married friends, please love me, please spend time with me, please pray for me, and please be the touchable Christ here on earth to me. Please stop trying to 'fix' my singleness. If it needs mending, let my Father take care of it, in His time.everlastingscribehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10390789953931295135noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5030865476005419730.post-31590773749707794832010-07-21T21:45:36.098-04:002010-07-21T21:45:36.098-04:00Sometimes, I would like to feel included. Most of ...Sometimes, I would like to feel included. Most of the time however, I don't.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com